think one thousand times, it's better to do it! Ten thousand times, not as good as the practice! A magnificent fall, more than a meaningless hovering! According to the study of the Harvard University, there must be the following nine root causes for a person. See how many of you are?
1, indecisive - worse than rashness,
like the fence dangling people, no matter how strong the other hand, in the game of life is always easy to be people who are firmly pushed aside. Resolutely make mistakes, but also dare not stronger than what.
White Head said, "fear of mistakes is to destroy progress."
two, delay - plan execution is full, very skinny
most of the time procrastination is to avoid problems and laziness. magnified the difficulties in front of it, held back, holding a day is a day's attitude to find a variety of excuses to escape:
"I'm too busy"
"do nothing a day doesn't matter"
comes with us, and we fall into the mire of "more and more boring work" and "more and more boring life".
is more lazy, more negative, and will fall into the trap of regretting the past and imagining the future.The accumulation of
time will produce a stronger sense of guilt and self denial that make people more and more anxious.Roman Roland, a famous thinker of
, said, "laziness is a very strange thing. It makes you think that it is comfort, rest and bliss, but actually it gives you boredom, tiredness and depression."
three, three minute heat - creating a 80% failure
"three minutes" of the people but never bring experience to persist in doing the joy of success, because the process is always adhere to the dull and full of setbacks, human nature is love leisure and hate labour.
"at the beginning of every year, the first few pages of the notebook are full of grand plans, and almost all of them are blank..." "I bought a good book, but it's a pity that it hasn't begun to read yet..."
"determined to memorize words, almost 5 days after the abandonment of..."
almost all people have had the "ambitious plan to give up the plan".
four, fear of refusal -- heavy and fragile self-esteem
most of the time, the "pain" we feel in our relationships is related to "feel rejected."
sometimes this refusal is obvious, such as the sudden departure of a lover, or the backboard and alienation of a friend.
, and sometimes this rejection can be very subtle. For example, if you give the other person a smiling look, the other person is away from your eyes. Or you can muster up the courage to send a WeChat to the other person, but the other side is very short for a long time.
a person who can put aside his self-esteem and do things is a person who focuses on goal and result oriented, while people who place their self-esteem on the first place always pay attention to others' attitude towards themselves when doing things in interpersonal relationships.
so, the more one is good for nothing when they read more than those of the baseline and low self-esteem of little importance.
five, self handicapping - kill the latent capacity of
they often say that: I want to do A, but I'm afraid I can't do it because of B, C, D, E.
before they did, they first denied themselves and gave themselves a pile of reasons for not trying.
all mediocrity and low achievement are the result of self handicapping.
acquiescence a height in his mind. This "psychological height" often implies that I can't do this thing well, so I can do it almost.
this psychological hint can help you block the frustration of failure, temporarily maintain your sense of self-worth, but it deprives you of the chance of success.
Laroche Fraser C said: "mediocre people are always complaining about what they don't understand."
six, escapism --, a daydream patient
people who escape from reality have 5 characteristics.
1. often dreams of daydreaming - the escapist is more willing to create a small world of their own.
2. likes to live unrestrained and unrestrained - to be white, to live a life of leisure.
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